Hello everyone,
Originally I did not want to comment on the news of Tiger Wood’s affair as matters of infidelity are messy subjects that under usual circumstances should remain private until it reaches the public divorce courts. However, I am somewhat troubled by those who are excusing his behavior as par for the course when it comes to the athlete or the rich man. Even more disturbing are the people who say all married men cheat or instead celebrates Tiger’s bad behavior. You can find such excuses lined on the message boards at ESPN.com among other sites.
Now as a fan of Mr. Woods I’m not asking for a public apology and the fact that he has taken responsibilities for his “transgressions” leave me with the impression and the hope that he wants to make things right for his family. (True its after the fact, but at least its something.) However, the measure of a man is not measured at the workplace or at the 18th hole of the Masters Tournament in Augusta; it is measured in his everyday life and how he deals honestly with those he cares about the most. As a businessman I understand the bottom line for EA Sports and Nike’s decision to stand by Tiger because his endorsements bring in an excessive amount of cash but as a man who was raised to treat the ones you love better than you treat yourself I am somewhat disheartened. Does character not matter anymore? Do we as a public excuse such behavior as infidelity because the guilty lives a privileged life, a life in the spot light? Have we’ve been numbed by all the celebrity mischief and accept that fame like power corrupts the heart? Or is it worse? Have post-modern America’s licentious or casual views on sex now warped marriage to where for many Americans the rights of marriage mean nothing?
Make no mistake this is not as simple as a matter of casual pre-marital sex. Its not just sex that is at issue here, but a matter of commitments made and broken, of betrayal of the heart, and the agony of loss. Only a truly heartless person would say of the cheated wife, “well she should have known what she was getting herself involved in.” Perhaps, she may have been warned but maybe his charm eased all skeptics. Regardless, she chose to trust the man who pledged himself solely to her; to forgo all doubt and put her faith in him. What is even worse in this affair is it appears that Tiger managed to turn some naughty side action into a harem as he apparently had three mistresses. Nothing can excuse this sort of betrayal. It is as if he tossed his marriage aside when it suited him in order to fulfill some selfish want or desire.
Nothing more really needs to be said or done on this matter by the public. There’ll be no lynch mob of strangers nor should there be. Although where Tiger Woods privacy is concerned; historically sexual indiscretions by A-list celebrities always become a public circus. Arguing rather that is fair or not is as mute a point to make, not to mention childish, as a kid complaining about his broken toy. Celebrity affairs are rarely ever kept locked in the bedroom. The simple truth of the matter is not only has he greatly profited from playing on the golf course but as well from his seemingly normal and likable facade in commercials, and has made himself a media darling as well as a humongous public target. If anyone should have know better (three times over) it was Tiger. However; as for the the wife and children, if they wish for it, the matter should quickly return to a private matter but only if it is for their benefit and not Tiger’s.
Lastly it gives me no great pleasure to chastise anyone or be critical of anyone. Nor do I come to a place where I can condemn any man for his sins by throwing the first stone. True, adultery is not one of my sins but as the Lord forgives me of my faults I know it is not my place to judge a man’s soul. However there is right and wrong and when that wrong affects others and changes perceptions of one’s character then people should be called out if for nothing more then for them to realize their misdeed and make things right. I would also add that I do not wish to see Tiger’s greatness on the field humbled; after all, his dedication to golf has made the game exciting to watch. It is my hope that Tiger Woods steps away from the game for awhile, takes that same dedication to his game and tends to his family, builds them up, and returns to the greens as a better man with his wife by his side. Such sentiment may be pollyannaish but it is not unheard of for wives to forgive their husbands and husbands learn the value of a happily married life. One thing is for certain about the future of Mrs. Woods and that is the acclamation of big expensive jewelry, regardless rather she stays or gets a divorce. -Matt Thompson




